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I have a rationalist/rationalist-adjacent friend who would love a book recommendation on how to be good at dating and relationships. Their specific scenario is that they already have a stable relationship, but they're relatively new to having relationships in general, and are looking for lots of general advice.
Since the sanity waterline here is pretty high, I though I'd ask if anyone had any recommendations or not. If not, I'll just point them to this LW post, though having a bit more material to read through might suit them well.
Thanks!
It's written from a Christian perspective, but "Things I wish I'd known before getting married" by Gary Chapman is extremely good: 90% level-headed good sense and 10% Christian moralizing. I recommend it for any new couple.
A good book for a general overview is Mate: Become the Man Women Want by Tucker Max and Geoffrey Miller. Geoffrey Miller is an evolutionary psychology professor and Tucker Max is famous for writing books about his politically incorrect sex stories. At the same time the focus of their book is on mutual benefitial interactions. They also have a podacst over at http://thematinggrounds.com/
From the position of being new to realtionships it's also worthwhile to read about sex. Two good books are the Sex God Method by Daniel Rose and Slow Sex by Nicole Daedone. Both books provide very different perspectives. Daniel Rose comes from a PUA background. Nicole Daedone has a degree in Gender Communications and a more New Age background.
(My brain automatically added "in-" before "famous" when I skimmed that sentence.)
Rowland Miller, Intimate Relationships, 7th Ed.
I like John Gottman's books. He has written several, any would be good. My favourite is "And Baby Makes Three." He is a therapist who studies married couples in a lab, and can see what works and what doesn't.