I tried communicating with mindkilled people in the past, it didn't go well. (I get accused of something; they congratulate themselves for disarming an evil person.) Now I usually suppress the urge.

I don't think she's mindkilled. Basically in this case you both haven't read the literature but she's in a position where she's not willing to admit to ot having read the research because that means she would lose status.

A good question might be: "Then how does it come that Louis Harris et al only found 2% of woman to have been raped?"

If there is a forum where people could rationally communicate this kind of concerns, I don't know about it.

Skeptics.Stackexchange is a good forum for this purpose. I think it makes sense to open questions there whenever I can boil down the claim to a specific form.

My question Is a woman who dresses sexually suggestively more likely to get raped? for example also produced good answers.