While I agree that going for aromanticism foregoes the chance for the deep kind of Love I'd like to point out that

• that kind of mutual attachment seems to be relatively rare (I seem to remember that only a smaller part of all romantic relationships are mutually that way, and for me it makes sense probabilistically and psychologically)
• and in the cases where it isn't mutual it is much less satisfactory for either party than the state you describe (I'm reporting from own experience having been the deeply attached party being happy to do everything and happily enduring a lot until breakup)
• strictly hg00 doesn't really forego this state permanently. Actually he may make himself more desirable that way and with the additional productivity end up in a position where he might decide differently later on.