Though actually I have gone to curi's website (or, rather, websites; he has several) and read his stuff

So have I, but curi's understanding of "using references" is a bit more particular than that. Unrolled, it means "your argument has been dealt with by my tens of thousands of words over there [waves hand in the general direction of the website], so we can consider it refuted and now will you please stop struggling and do as I tell you".

Why, yes, I am being snarky.

Embrace your snark and it will set you free! :-D