My mom grew up in Nazi Germany. She said that people then thought obedience was the most important thing in a child, even before the Nazis.
But I wouldn't infer from studies of Nazi Germany that we emphasize obedience too much, enough, or too little, today.
PS - Sample size?
A while back I did a couple of posts on the care and feeding of young rationalists. Though it is not new, I recently found a truly excellent post on this topic, in Dale Mcgowan's blog, The Meming of Life. The post details a survey carried out on ordinary citizens of Hitler's Germany, searching for correlations between style of upbringing, and adult moral decisions.