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Why didn't you mention any advice on status signaling?
User:Relsqui probably didn't mention it because it's such an easy issue to handle. Just add this to your profile:
Then, use a standard protocol to make it credible. What's the problem?
The main reason is that we didn't really talk about it in the thread I based the post on. Other reasons include that I find a lot of the commonly advised signals personally repugnant. I don't mean that I know better than the person doing the advising--quite the contrary, I think that reaction probably disqualifies me from giving good advice about it. But there are some points which are worth adding (e.g. don't talk about your worst bits in your first impression), and those I merely didn't think of. I'll see if I can find a place to work that in.
Consider stopping by the discussion section some time; it would have been nice to have this conversation about an earlier draft over there.
This post is good advice for a dating site where all the users are approximately equal in physical attractiveness and status level. Otherwise, most the information becomes irrelevant once your profile readers determine your desirability levels are unmatched. For instance, men wouldn't even read your profile if they think they can get a better looking woman. And I've seen women go through profiles only paying attention to job, pictures and height.
More important information for these profiles is status and physical attractiveness orienting information. Finding a match at this level is enough for most people (I'd guess 90%) to message the other person.
If that were true, what's the purpose of having a profile? Why not just post your photo, height, and salary and be done with it?
I would expect that to vary significantly based on the number of users available who fit one's age/sex/preference requirements. But regardless of what the percentage is, it seems to me that people who fall into it have no need of this post.
Well, for those few whose status/looks filter you pass.
Then is your complaint that my profile-writing advice is only applicable when people actually read your profile? Because you're right, and I'm not sorry.
Sure, but it doesn't help for those who want to make sure they're maximizing the status/looks of their readers. And for people not getting messaged/messaged back as much as they'd like, should consider improving their displayed status/looks.
As noted, it's worth adding a section on status; I will when I think of what exactly should go in it. But that'll still only matter when people read the profile. The presentation of looks is discussed in the photo section. Actually improving your real-life status and appearance is indeed relevant to your dating chances but beyond the scope of the post.
I can help you write that section if you'd like.
I'd be interested to see anything more you want to write on the subject.
By all means. Perhaps write a top-level comment to the post about it (so it doesn't get buried at the end of this thread)?
To prove you're an actual person.