Relsqui comments on Love and Rationality: Less Wrongers on OKCupid - LessWrong

19 Post author: Relsqui 11 October 2010 06:35AM

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Comment author: Relsqui 11 October 2010 06:32:36PM 3 points [-]

They are not guaranteed, or even likely, to improve your chances for eliciting attraction even from the author, let alone anyone else.

The only thing that "guarantees" eliciting attraction--from me or anyone else--is being attractive. If you write honestly about how you are a person whose interests and values do not intersect with mine, and present it well, I still will not message you. This is not a failure of your writing; it has saved us both some wasted time.

Comment author: wedrifid 14 October 2010 08:07:42PM 2 points [-]

The only thing that "guarantees" eliciting attraction--from me or anyone else--is being attractive.

Where 'being attractive' to a significant degree means 'doing things that elicit attraction'.

Comment author: Vladimir_M 11 October 2010 07:10:20PM *  2 points [-]

Relsqui:

The only thing that "guarantees" eliciting attraction--from me or anyone else--is being attractive.

I have no particular comment on what you write here, but I would like to point out that this makes my above comment sound much cruder than it really was. The phrases "guarantee to improve one's chances for eliciting attraction" and "guarantee eliciting attraction" do not mean the exact same thing.