Zack_M_Davis comments on Holden's Objection 1: Friendliness is dangerous - LessWrong

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Comment author: [deleted] 22 May 2012 05:48:18AM *  15 points [-]

It made me a lot more comfortable dealing with people who might be seen as "regressive", "bland", "conservative" or just who seem otherwise not very in-synch with my own social attitudes and values. Getting to understand that culture and culturally-transmitted worldviews do constitute umbrella groups, but that people vary within them to similar degrees across such umbrellas, made it easier to just deal with people and adapt my own social responses to the situation, and where I feel like the person has incorrect, problematic or misguided ideas, it made it easier to choose my responses and present them effectively.

It made me more socially-conscious and a bit more socially-successful. I have some considerable obstacles there, but just having cultural details available was huge in informing my understanding of certain interactions. When I taught ESL, many of my students were Somali and Muslim. I'm also trans, and gender is a very big thing in many Islam-influenced societies (particularly ones where men and women for the most part don't socialize). I learned a bit about fashion sense and making smart choices just by noticing how the men reacted to what I wore, particularly on hot days. I learned a lot about gender-marked social behavior and signifiers from my interactions with the older women in the class and the degree to which they accepted me (which I could gauge readily by their willingness to engage in casual touch, say to get my attention or when thanking me, or the occasional hug from some of my students).

It made me a far better worldbuilder than I was before, because I have some sense of just how variable human cultures really are, and how easy it is to construct a superficially-plausible theory of human cultures, history or behavior while missing out on the incredible variance that actually exists.

It made me far less interested in evolutionary psychology as an explanation for surface-level behaviors, let alone broad social patterns of behavior, because all too often cited examples turn out to be culturally-contingent. I think the average person in Western society has a very confused idea of just how different other cultures can be.

It made me skeptical of CEV as a thing that will return an output. I'm not sure human volition can be meaningfully extrapolated, and even if it can, I'm far from persuaded that the bits of it that cohere add up to anything you'd base FAI on.

It convinced me that the sort of attitudes I see expressed on LW towards "tradition" and traditional culture (especially where that experiences conflict with global capitalism) are so hopelessly confused about the thing they're trying to address that they essentially don't have anything meaningful to say about it, or at best only cover a small subset of the cases that they're applied to. It didn't make me a purist or instill some sort of half-baked Prime Directive or anything; cultures change and they'll do that no matter what.

It helped me grasp my own cultural background and influences better. It gave me some insight into the ways in which that can lock in your perceptions and decisions, and how hard that is to change that, and how easy it is to confuse that with something "innate" (and how easy it is to confuse "innate" with "genetic"). It helped me grasp how I could substitute or reprogram bits of that, and with a bit of time and practice it helped me understand the limitations on that.

There's...probably a whole ton more, but I'm running out of focus right now.

EDIT: Oh! It made me hugely more competent at navigating, interpreting and understanding art, especially from other cultures. Literary modes, aesthetics, music and styles; also narrative and its uses.

Comment author: Zack_M_Davis 22 May 2012 06:08:26AM 6 points [-]

It convinced me that the sort of attitudes I see expressed on LW towards "tradition" and traditional culture [...] are so hopelessly confused about the thing they're trying to address that they essentially don't have anything meaningful to say about it

(I think this could make an interesting and valuable top-level post.)

Comment author: [deleted] 22 May 2012 07:13:34AM 2 points [-]

Maybe. I'm not sure I'm able to write on that particular topic well enough to sit at the top-level, but it does get weird. Partly it's my own perspective as a person with cultural backgrounds that are not common here (mixed in with some cultural backgrounds that are) and perspectives on those; I can see what's bugging me but it's hard to construct it into any kind of overarching thesis (other than "LW is collectively bad at this").