NancyLebovitz comments on LW Women- Minimizing the Inferential Distance - LessWrong

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Comment author: NancyLebovitz 04 December 2012 01:51:51AM *  9 points [-]

Speaking only for myself, I think asking whether help is welcome and taking rejection politely is a good combination.

Any thoughts about whether the world would be a better place if men were comfortable offering each other that sort of help and accepting it some of the time?

Comment author: [deleted] 08 December 2012 12:03:22AM 3 points [-]

the world would be a better place if

Now I'm starting to wonder whether there might be cultural differences. ISTM that where I am (Italy), offering to share an umbrella with someone you know is just politeness, and people do it pretty often regardless of gender. (Likewise, people of either gender hold doors open for people (including strangers) of either gender all the time, and it would have never occurred to me that this might have anything to do with sexuality if I hadn't read that on the internet.)

Comment author: [deleted] 05 December 2012 01:23:34AM 2 points [-]

I can't imagine it would be a /worse/ world, in any case. If it were raining harder, I would theoretically be more willing to offer help, regardless of gender (and despite at least one personal anecdotal experience agreeing with Alicorn's comment). It just seems "wrong" (cold, unfriendly) if I hadn't offered, in my situation, regardless of whether aid was accepted or not.