Kaj_Sotala comments on Handshakes, Hi, and What's New: What's Going On With Small Talk? - LessWrong

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Comment author: Kaj_Sotala 03 January 2014 01:49:09PM 8 points [-]

For instance, I often greet people with "How do you do?". Most people of my generation don't really know how to react to this, and it makes them stop, think, and give a more "real" answer than if I asked "What's up?" or "How's it going?".

This might backfire, though - at least in our English class, we were taught that the only acceptable response to being asked "How do you do" is to repeat "How do you do" back.

Comment author: JoshuaZ 03 January 2014 06:25:50PM 4 points [-]

I hope you didn't take that instruction too strictly or did you have another protocol for getting out of apparent infinite loops?

Comment author: Kaj_Sotala 03 January 2014 06:32:33PM 9 points [-]

I worded my comment carefully in anticipation of this question. Note that I said that the acceptable response when being "asked" it is to "repeat it back", not "ask the same question". Clearly the protocol specifies that the same string doesn't count as a question anymore once it's sent in response to a query initiated by someone else.

Comment author: katydee 03 January 2014 07:28:16PM *  1 point [-]

At least in our English class, we were taught that the only acceptable response to being asked "How do you do" is to repeat "How do you do" back.

This is actually true, at least in terms of what's 'proper' to say!

However, very few people know about it anymore, at least in the United States-- that's what I was alluding to when I said that "most people of my generation don't really know how to react to this." In fact, I've legitimately never heard anyone other than myself make the "correct" response there.

Comment author: byrnema 03 January 2014 08:17:25PM 0 points [-]

I'm a 30-something American, and I only know about this rule from old movies about old times (like Pollyanna, set in the early 1900s).