Benquo comments on Handshakes, Hi, and What's New: What's Going On With Small Talk? - LessWrong

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Comment author: Benquo 31 August 2014 05:10:44PM 0 points [-]

My newest idea, which I will try out: "I want to know how you are doing."

Comment author: Creutzer 05 September 2014 09:07:20AM *  0 points [-]

For what it's worth, it sounds odd to me. Part of that is, presumably, because "I want" instead of "I'd like to" in connection with something directly involving the interlocutor is rather forceful, likely inappropriately so. But even "I'd like to know how you are doing" comes across as weirdly and artificially sincere, which I suspect gets interpreted as evidence of low social skills, hence reflecting negatively on the speaker. I wonder if this is a trap that all attempts at solving this linguistic problem are bound to fall into.

Comment author: Benquo 05 September 2014 09:22:23PM 0 points [-]

Imagine it said by someone who is very relaxed, in a soft tone of voice, after the "hello" pleasantries, looking you straight in the eye.