Comment author: Carinthium 01 September 2015 12:47:46PM 0 points [-]

Major question. Where do you fit the kind of truth that comes from realising an idea is incoherent, therefore must be wrong?

(For clarity, my view is that the whole notion of 'affective truth' is just plain wrong, but I have nothing to say on that which hasn't been already said)

Comment author: somervta 27 June 2014 06:53:58AM 1 point [-]

I don't have the citation to hand, but IIRC there's research suggesting higher variance among parents is the most significant effect.

Comment author: Carinthium 27 June 2014 09:33:26AM 0 points [-]

Good to know, but does that research clarify whether happiness is overall higher or lower in the long run?

Comment author: Emile 27 June 2014 09:09:17AM *  23 points [-]

For me having children feels "closer to being a terminal value" than happiness does. So saying "you should have Children because it makes you happy" sounds like "You should have a meaningful job and a loving relationship with your wife because it decreases your chances of having a heart attack by 8%!" or "You should avoid murdering people because it looks bad on your resume".

Comment author: Carinthium 27 June 2014 09:28:59AM 5 points [-]

I can believe that that's true for a significant portion of humanity- that they would choose to have children even knowing it would be bad for their happiness in the long run. It isn't true for me, though, and there are large numbers of people for whom it isn't (or else childlessness in the West wouldn't have risen so much).

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Comment author: Lumifer 09 February 2014 02:40:21AM 3 points [-]

I feel your policy makes you more easily manipulable, not less.

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Comment author: Carinthium 09 February 2014 06:02:33AM 0 points [-]

Why is that?

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Comment author: moridinamael 08 February 2014 06:52:30PM 1 point [-]

What if this person is your boss? Bear in mind that your boss has probably lied to you.

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Comment author: Carinthium 09 February 2014 02:36:33AM 2 points [-]

I have an independent income. I demand a transfer, and if I don't get it I quit.

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Comment author: hyporational 08 February 2014 07:31:24AM -2 points [-]

Will you make that connection explicit to them afterwards too? Do you think other people make the connection? How?

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Comment author: Carinthium 08 February 2014 09:23:56AM 0 points [-]

If I go on about it enough in conversation, people will have to realise. I won't made it explicit directly to them, but them realising will discourage others.

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Comment author: hyporational 08 February 2014 07:08:19AM *  4 points [-]

Luckily, I have a one strike rule against ultimatums. :)

Why doesn't simply not trusting them work for you? How does being hostile to them further your interests?

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Comment author: Carinthium 08 February 2014 07:23:37AM 1 point [-]

Because it makes it obvious to people that I'm taking my policy seriously.

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Comment author: hyporational 08 February 2014 06:56:24AM *  1 point [-]

How do you execute this zero tolerance policy? There's a vast space between alienating people and simply not trusting them.

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Comment author: Carinthium 08 February 2014 07:03:47AM 1 point [-]

A One Strike Rule. If I catch a person lying to me, I never hang out with them against unless I have no case. I also deliberately act in a rude and hostile manner.

However, this only applies if I've already warned them about the policy.

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Comment author: Carinthium 08 February 2014 05:32:54AM 6 points [-]

Another thing I should note that it can simply be a matter of human preferences. I'm very uncomfortable with the idea of having any truely close relationship (lover or close friend) with somebody who would be willing to lie to me. I see no reason why other wants should somehow override this one.

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Comment author: Nornagest 08 February 2014 05:25:41AM 6 points [-]

You seem to be treating lack of social skills as a static attribute rather than a mutable trait. This may not be the most productive frame for the issue.

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Comment author: Carinthium 08 February 2014 05:31:58AM 6 points [-]

Improving my social skills is HARD. I could invest a massive effort into it if I tried, but I'm at university right now and my marks would take a nosedive. It's not worth the price.

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