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Best guesses at an explanation for that one: 1) A lot of older men had some homosexual experimentation in their past, decided that they therefore count as bi, but are now only interested in heterosexual relationships. 2) A lot of older men choose to signal what they believe to be the desirable characteristic of "sexual adventurousness" to their actual target sexual partner, which is younger women.
Plus, there may be many bisexual men specifically looking for a partner they can breed with. Based roughly on barely remembered male fertility age statistics, I'd guess men would be most interested in fathering children in the 25-45 age rage, and there does seem to be a bit of a hump in the data in that range.
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Sure, you want to avoid ahead of time getting involved with an abuser.
But virtually all abuse stories I hear involve the woman ignoring early red flags, ignoring early pre- or mildly abusive behavior.
So a tremendous amount of abuse could be avoided without needing to predict the future. STOP relationships with people who are starting to abuse you, starting down that path.
I am not saying this to justify the abuser or abusive behavior. Rather to point out that in the puzzle of understanding abuse, understanding the abused's staying in the relationship is part of that puzzle.
I would hazard that many red flags--"obvious indicators of danger" are much more clearly seen in hindsight or out of context--these red flags might not have been quite so obvious to these women in abusive relationships. Using words like "ignoring" implies active agency on their part.
This type of statement strikes me as being a very likely reason "normal male" was used as a descriptor. If she allowed herself to be put on the stand for "failing" to see the warning signs, then, in a potential critic's mind, she might be implicitly bearing partial blame, and thus her message might be safely ignored (not that I agree with that--I'm merely stating that this is a common attitude that could easily be expected. "She didn't get out so she's partly to blame for being abused.") To avoid this, she hastened to point out that there was no way in which he did differentiate himself from other men, no "red flags" she'd missed.
More simply, a strong aversion to a common trend of blaming the victim and a desire to skip past that part of the critique.
I am making no statements about you in particular--merely that that's an easy interpretation of your comment.