Congratulations, by the way. You have successfully added years to your life, ceased to constantly stink, saved a lot of money, and retained the mental edge and social benefits of smoking nicotine. Instrumental rationality at its finest.

wish fulfillment female

I'm a straight male. For what it's worth:

I act, dress and style feminine

I'm not sure what acting feminine means but I don't think it's anything I require in relationships. As far as feminine dress, I like it when a girlfriend does this at least occasionally but it's not super-important.

I am most fulfilled when I'm in a M-dom f-sub relationship.

I prefer an egalitarian relationship both in and out of the bedroom, and confess to being somewhat squicked by other preferences. (But I view this as a personal taste issue and don't hold other people's different preferences against them.)

My favourite activity is cooking and my honest-to-god favourite place in the house is the kitchen.

Having a girlfriend who can cook well is great! But I don't think of cooking as a female duty and would not think that a girlfriend who was a bad cook [edit: or didn't like to cook or whatever] was failing to fulfill her role in the relationship. Same with a wife or mother.

(Other demographic info: I'm an American thirtysomething nerdy SWPL.)

Not OP, but I expected Japan to have about 40-50 million, about on par with California and South Korea. 130 million is huge.

See this excellectly written blog post on should we allow sex play in Kindergarden? (SFW, seriously)

There is the ominous possibility that if a positive singularity does occur, the resultant singleton may have precommitted to punish all potential donors who knew about existential risks but who didn't give 100% of their disposable incomes to x-risk motivation. ... So a post-singularity world may be a world of fun and plenty for the people who are currently ignoring the problem, whilst being a living hell for a significant fraction of current existential risk reducers (say, the least generous half). You could take this possibility into account and give even more to x-risk in an effort to avoid being punished. But of course, if you're thinking like that, then the CEV-singleton is even more likely to want to punish you... nasty. Of course this would be unjust, but is the kind of unjust thing that is oh-so-very utilitarian.

Before I get a tattoo, I have to have continuously liked a design for a full year. This hasn't happened yet so I'm ink free, but it has been a year since I decided I wanted to get magnetic finger implants so I'm moving forward with that.

Other rule of thumb I use a lot: most times, the wrong decision is better than no decision than all.

My guess is that this trait is mostly innate, rather then acquired.

I'm pretty sure I didn't use to be like that. As far as I can tell (though my introspection is far from perfect), I started off as a nerd who didn't care about status at all (either instrumentally or terminally), then realized status is instrumentally useful, started to pursue it, and eventually find myself getting warm fuzzies from it. A subgoal stomp has occurred.

Did this happen during your developmental years? This seems to be a typical high school experience, which would lead me to believe that it is more of an innate process people go through. (Albiet a lot of people are inherently social at a very young age).

Quantum roulette is a possible candidate.

Focus on arbitrary then.

But starting from the viewpoint that Everett branches where I die don't count to me, the viewpoint of weighing of universes over mental states is the one that feels weird. 'As is any', because the 'weirdness', or 'non-normalcy' of anything depends on what you consider to be normal at the start.

weird and arbitrary preference system

As is any, I've never seen a convincing reason to preference valuing other Everett branches vs only your experienced one.

EDIT: I stand by this even with the downvotes.