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That sort of idea. See the LW wiki for more about how the term has been used around here.
Thanks, I bookmarked that, and will be more specific.
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Open thread, Feb. 01 - Feb. 07, 2016
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Don't quit your day job.
I was telling you not to say those sorts of things to people, because they reveal more about you than you probably expect they do, and reveal things about yourself you don't want to be advertising.
Welcome back.
Can you be specific, without paraphrasing? And no ad hominem, please.
At this point you might as well let the cat all the way out of the bag, if there is a cat to be let out.
Am I in physical danger? If yes, from whom?
BTW, this is about the strangest thread I've ever participated in. I guess it's an opportunity to learn, which is what I hope I'm doing on this forum.
Of course, lots of people have attacked me verbally. But they don't know me closely enough to really know how to insult me. So their worst attacks don't even need a reply: they're hopelessly misfired. I can let them yell as long as they want. The part of me they want to hurt is one they can never reach and will never see.
Even with that protection, in my experience it's emotionally exhausting to be constantly expecting attacks from every interaction. If you stop seeing an aggressive intent behind every comment, your life will be much less stressful. People are essentially good, and most of them are too busy going through their own day to bother ruining other people's.
We've gotten derailed.
All we need do is ask O. Wilde what his or her intentions were in those posts.
Note to readers: this "hypothetical" scenario was actually this exchange.
You're reading too much into just a few words, and you seem overconfident in your ability to divine other people's intentions. Interpreting the above exchange as a "mind game" is ridiculously paranoid.
Note to readers: I never said it was hypothetical.
And, the textbooks written about my personality type say I have a sensitivity to other people's issues.
And, I'm not starting from zero; over the years I've had office mates and others who acted in a similar way and so I know what works.
Strangely, some of these people may actually have wanted my approval or recognition. Very few get that, even those who are well-behaved. I think I know what causes this, but that info is classified - sorry.
They may have spotted ways that we two are similar. Of course, the idea that I am similar to these verbal bullies is repugnant to me but it's very likely accurate. In my whole life maybe a half dozen people fit this pattern.
Also, there are books on "Verbal Judo" but they are hard to come by from my local library. I scoop up what I can. As long as all I do is counterpunch, block-then-strike, I feel I have the moral high ground.
But, that aside, if this is a false positive for a mind/head/word game, what do you make of this exchange? Is the literal meaning the only thing going on?
In your whole life, have you ever met someone who "put one over on you", left you with the feeling that you've been "had" and you couldn't even verbalize how? If yes, in retrospect, what really went on? Did you act optimally? What would you change for future encounters of this type?
Thanks for reading. :)
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Open thread, Jan. 25 - Jan. 31, 2016
Analysis of a mind game.
Any comments as to the internal workings of A and B are welcome.
Note that, in the US, a person has the right to confront his/her accuser. In the exchange below, B has done that but the specific accusation has never been clarified by A. Very tricky. I have definitely learned from this exchange.
B: ". . .women are biologically superior. . ."
A: This says far more about you than you could possibly imagine. I suggest being more cautious going forward.
At this point it is not clear how exactly B can guard against whatever beliefs he holds that are dangerous. In any case A has decided that B is incapable of comprehending the problem. Note that "defining" someone is a form of verbal abuse according to Satir, and possibly others. "Going forward" makes me think that A is a Brit. Since the Brits "invented" English I may be at a disadvantage here. But I'll go forward anyway.
B: It says that I take for fact what people say who study this type of thing. I suggest that your conduct in this post is offensive.
So B challenges A.
If A is a "sniper" (one who hides behind double or ambiquous meanings), the antidote is to smoke them out, just like a real sniper. Apparently that is what B instinctively did.
A: If that is all it says, you have nothing to be offended about.
A still has not said exactly what is wrong with B's thinking and tells B how B should feel. This is now framed as A the parent and B the child.
B: It's not your call. Who are you?
It's not up to A to decide how B should feel. Then B asks for ID, see "smoke them out", above.
TIA for reading. :D
If that is all it says, you have nothing to be offended about.
It's not your call.
Who are you?
and that women are biologically superior in any case?
This says far more about you than you could possibly imagine. I suggest being more cautious going forward.
It says that I take for fact what people say who study this type of thing.
I suggest that your conduct in this post is offensive.
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Let's say I make six predictions or statements that I believe to be true about someone I've never met and I say the statements taken as a whole are true with P = 0.7. Note that I do not claim to be psychic.
The P of each statement must then lie between 0.7 and 1.0, and if they are equal then the P of each statement is 0.7 ^ (1/6) = 0.94. Let's say 0.9 because I doubt any statement about this type of probability should be reported with two significant figures, and perhaps even one significant figure without an attached tolerance band is a bit of a stretch.
I'd say that a P this high for each statement, given this example, is well nigh impossible.
Agreed?
Maybe I'm not so underqualified as to be unable to enjoy this forum.