a_different_face

if there's going to be one goddamned place in the entire goddamned world where people put relatively more emphasis on "arguing for true propositions about human psychology because they're true" and relatively less emphasis on social acceptability, shouldn't it be us?

Sure. And we do put relatively more emphasis. But we have not completely and totally thrown away all social convention. Nor should we: much of it exists for good reason.

I cannot imagine participating in this community for any length of time and sincerely concluding that the mental state you've described is actually universal.

For obvious reasons, I'm extremely curious to hear your analysis if you're willing to share. (Feel free to PM me.)

Probably this is going to be too blunt, but it's honest, and I'm assuming you'd prefer that:

Basically, because you are psychotic, not an asshole (or at least, afaict, only an asshole as a consequence). And dealing with people who are behaving poorly because of mental issues is a hard problem, especially in a community where so many people have mental issues of one sort or another.

Again, this doesn't mean I disagree with you (and again neithe... (read more)

Ah, thanks. Turns out I do know who you are and have already thought about the question of why (and to what extent) the community continues to interact with you to my satisfaction. (And yes, the throwaway's description of you is somewhat misleading, though mostly that's because, from their behavior, I would expect anyone they praise to be terrible without redeeming features).

This is about behavior, not belief.

I have not disputed "autogynephilic men with repressed femininity and a crossdressing fetish pretending to be women aren't actually women", though neither have I affirmed it.

Regardless, I still would not want you, personally, in any community I'm part of, because your behavior is bad. I'm not interested in debating this this; obviously we disagree on what acceptable behavior looks like. Whatever; different strokes for different folks - clearly this community is not for you, but also you seem to still be here, fo... (read more)

A specific other person intuitively sounds better to me, but that might just be because that's how it has been done in organizations I've been in. (Though it sounds hard to schedule if it's not a specific person, otherwise, and it's important that this be a regular thing with the specific topic of "talk about how things are going", not just general spending time together.) Maybe your second in command, maybe a different person from the command structure - I assume there's going to be people other than you with roles like "general household m... (read more)

despite the efforts of a very valiant man, people have still not realized that autogynephilic men with repressed femininity and a crossdressing fetish pretending to be women aren't actually women

Being only on the periphery of the community, I'm extremely curious who said valiant man is (full disclosure: this is so I can avoid them and/or assess why the community has not yet shunned them, as I would hope they'd shun you).

This is a neat idea!

I expect it to fail. And I kind of wish you wouldn't try: I give maybe a 1/4 chance this fails sufficiently dramatically and publicly that I become less willing to be associated with the community because people start associating it with that failure.

In particular, here is what I expect to happen (~60% confidence it goes down something like this):

• Someone will start regularly defecting within the first three months. Maybe they don't keep up with their chores, maybe they skip meetings, maybe they fail to get along with someone and they