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Do you have planned articles for discussing? How late do you plan on going?
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Hmm... perhaps How to be Happy - I can bring along my positive psyc textbook to supplement it and it's something everyone should be able to contribute to whether they've read the article or not. No need to stick too closely to it though, I think for the first meetup fairly free discussion could be more fun, to see what everyone's interests are.
I'd guess it will go about 3 hours, but we'll end when things naturally close, and if anyone needs to go earlier that's fine.
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From wikipedia article on rejection therapy:
"At the time of rejection, the player, not the respondent, should be in a position of vulnerability. The player should be sensitive to the feelings of the person being asked."
How does one implement this? One of my barriers to social interactions is the ethical aspect to it; I feel uncomfortable imposing on others or making them uncomfortable. Using other people for one's own therapy seems a bit questionable. Does anyone have anything to share about how to deal with guilt-type feelings and avoid imposing on others with rejection therapy?
I used to have the same, to the extent that I wouldn't ask even ask teachers, people paid to help me, for help. I hated the feeling that I was a burden somehow. But I got over it in the space of a couple months by getting into a position where people were asking me for help all the time - and that made me realize it wasn't an unpleasant or annoying experience, I actually liked it, and others were probably the same. In most cases you're doing people a favor by giving them a chance to get warm-fuzzies for what's (usually in the case of rejection therapy) a relatively simple request to fulfill.
Of course, there are still certain requests that might be uncomfortable to reject, and my thoughts on those are that they're usually the ones where you feel like you've left someone out who really needed your help. So to get over this, don't choose things to ask that are going to go bad if you don't get it - for instance asking for a ride when it's pouring out, or telling someone you need some money to call your kids at home so they don't worry (instead of just 'I need to make a call'). As long as what you ask is casual and you don't seem desperate, people should have no problem rejecting it without feeling bad, and to lessen any impact even more you can smile and say 'no problem, thanks anyway' or something similar to show you're alright without it.
Also use your sense, if you ask and they look uncomfortable going 'oh, umm, well...' you should be the one to jump in and say 'hey, it's no problem, you look busy so I'll check with someone else' or something like that, rather than waiting for them to have to say outright 'no'. Some people don't mind just saying no outright, some people do, so be attuned to that and no-one should be uncomfortable. Good luck!
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For everyone who's interested, check out the details of the first meetup here: http://lesswrong.com/meetups/z6
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The meetup is launched! A little late for schelling day, but we can call it that in spirit. http://lesswrong.com/meetups/z6
Meetup : Christchurch, NZ Inaugural Meetup
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Join us for the first Christchurch meetup!
It will be held in room 901, James Hight Library at the University of Canterbury. Just head in the front (only) doors to James Hight, find an elevator (don't take the stairs, they only go up one floor), go up to floor 9 and you'll find room 901 along one of the walls. If you're unsure of how to get there feel free to comment below, PM me for directions or PM me for a cell number in case you get lost.
I'll be there from 4pm, so arrive anytime 4-4.30 to chat and meet people. We'll start the planned activities at 4.30 and go for as long as people would like.
As for what the planned activities are to be - I'm open to suggestions! As a default, we'll start with a few introduction games, move onto discussing an article or two, and finish up with some fun (quick to learn) card games like Story Wars.
Update:
Introductions: I'm going to take some advice from my positive psychology textbook, and suggest we introduce ourselves by telling everyone about a time we showed great character (whatever that means to you). I'll give a few examples at the time, and we may have to turn off our 'anti-bragging' instincts, but it should be a good way to get things started in the theme for the night.
Discussion article: [How to be Happy](http://lesswrong.com/lw/4su/how_to_be_happy/). Read if you have time, if not show up anyway! It should be easy to contribute to. There'll also be some unstructured discussion and probably loads of great tangents.
Games: As stated above, I'll bring along Story Wars, a game where you try and win by telling the most believable story about how your fantastical character would beat all the others. We can play or not depending on how time is going and what people want to do.
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I gather that this isn't going to happen today (March 2)...
Nope. Probably Sunday 16th or 23rd
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Traveller from europe would be interested but I am currently residing at the westcoast, which would make saturday a lot more comfortable.
Alright, I'll see what people think of Saturday. I suggested Sunday because the library is open to 9pm on Sunday and only 5pm on Saturday, but if we did early afternoon and everyone could make it there's no reason Saturday couldn't work
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It is indeed. I'll give an exact room, directions, and contact cell number for if anyone gets lost when I put up the actual meetup
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I am interested, James height is a nice location. I think Sunday afternoon is fine.
Great, thanks for commenting and I'll be sure to keep you informed
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Indeed, be good to have you there. I don't think many of us will have attended one before, but if this goes well it will hopefully become a regular thing