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If they do complain,they generally do so more discreetly or put a positive spin on it.
Interesting post. I agree that disagreement is productive and necessary for an organization to be effective. I know, however, that there are ways of disagreeing in a diplomatic way that lead to others being more likely to listen. Learning to be diplomatic takes practice, desire and good social skills. Diplomacy and social skills can be learned. By my post, I was suggesting ways one can be more diplomatic when the menu isn't to ones liking.
I'm pretty sure I heightened expectations of perfection by saying people should pay (not me) for eating. Speaking of which, people should lower their expectations, this thing is going to be as informal as it gets. Like... I'll have adequate seating for everyone but no dining room table. My place isn't exactly set up for a dinner party and this isn't a dinner party so much as an extremely informal party at my house that happens to also have delicious food being served.
You might have heightened expectations, but I don't think it's realistic to expect that much. I belong to several nonprofit organizations that have meet ups with food and ask for a donation or admission charge Often it is expected for participants to bring a dish, in addition to making a donation. If invitees don't like the menu, they either usually bring something they do like tp share or don't com. If they do complain,they generally do so more discreetly or put a positive spin on it. For example, they might praise the organizers for a job well done and say they think a dinner organized around such and such dish or catered by, or held at, such and such restaurant would be great for the next event.
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Newtonmas Meetup, 12/25/2010
Kevin, I think it's really nice of you to invite everyone and to elicit their food preferences. I live on the other coast, and have other plans. It looks to me like you have taken vegetarians into consideration. If I were invited to a party and was concerned that their was not going to be enough food that I could, or wanted to eat, I would offer to bring a dish of something that I wanted to eat- with enough to share.
I really must say, your name is hilarious.
You must misunderstand why my name is "playtherapist"- which is understandable. I really am a playtherapist. I do therapy with children, using play. I get paid for playing with doll houses, sand trays, play dough, action figures, etc. with troubled little children. I help them to work out their anxiety, anger, feelings of loss, etc. using play.
David Gerard is a well-known UK Wikipedian, and I have the impression jimrandomh is American, so probably the latter.
Thanks. Yes, jimrandomh is definitely American, so unless David came to one of the Singularity Institute's conferences and met him there, they wouldn't have met.
Upvoted for sheer weight of online pwnage. This is worse than when both my mothers discovered my LiveJournal.
p.s. Are you someone who my son has met live or just an online friend?
Upvoted for sheer weight of online pwnage. This is worse than when both my mothers discovered my LiveJournal.
Not really. He told me about the board. When I told him I looked at his posts occasionally, he suggested I register and post myself. Then, when I told him that his post about our town's Santa program was slightly inaccurate, he said I could clarify it if I wanted to. I pointed out that I'd have to reveal my identity and he didn't have a problem with it!
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The Santa deception: how did it affect you?
My parents not only pulled the Santa deception, they used a service whereby an actor in a costume would come and deliver their presents as an intermediary. This left me with a longer lasting, but much less absurd version of the Santa myth; I knew that the stuff about flying around in a sleigh and climbing down chimneys had to be wrong, but I didn't see anything wrong with the basic idea. I never thought about theb scale involved, but if I had, I probably would've concluded that "Santa" was a role, not a person, and that there was someone in that role for each participating community.
jimrandomh's mom here. That's not exactly right. It's a town wide program, all volunteer. Parents drop off gifts at a central location on a set day. Routes are planned, each with a driver and a volunteer. The gifts are delivered on Christmas Eve. Santa comes and rings the doorbell and comes in, often posing for photos. I'm pretty sure we only did it once, when he was 4 or 5, but it made a lasting impression, he knew that Santa came to the house and was not his dad, as his dad was right there.
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Smart people who are usually wrong
Everyone's judgment and prejudices are influenced by their life experiences and, to some extent, their personalities. On just about any topic where the facts aren't entirely clear, intelligent people are not going to all agree. The directions in which they disagree will be determined by judgment and prejudices. It makes sense that people on this board will find themselves disagreeing with the same people repeatedly.
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Splitting these into things that are time investments and things that you want to stop doing is one way to look at it. Another way to look at it is to divide things into recurring and non-recurring time investments. For example, exercising regularly is a recurring time investment, that takes a few hours every week; but scouting out gyms, choosing an exercise routine and setting the precedent for doing it is a one-time investment. For things that look like recurring time investments, or that look daunting, try to split off one-shot tasks that move you in the right direction.
More concretely: Install Leechblock (or a similar plugin) to either give yourself a time limit, or limit which times of the day you can surf in. Make your blogreading more efficient with RSS feeds. Choose the site with the lowest intellectual content to addictiveness ratio and delete it from your bookmarks.
More concretely: Browse meetup.com and similar sites for recurring activities in your area which others have organized.
It is much easier to change your diet by adding things than by removing things. To displace cheese, add other sources of fat and protein. However, removing cheese from your diet would not necessarily be an improvement, and it's unlikely to be the best available improvement.
More concretely: come up with some general-purpose jokes that aren't off-color, and start using those instead.
More concretely: cultivate the habit of checking your inventory whenever you exit a building (even if you really do have everything). Put some thought into how you manage the inventory items you tend to carry. Throw out any clothes with insufficient pockets.
Such good suggestions. Your mom must have done something right. :)