Less Wrong,
Before posting this, I debated myself as follows:
"Should I create a new username?"
Motivations (normal): I have not posted here in a long time. There are honest, good reasons to start on an interesting forum with a "clean slate." One reason is that I have changed so many of my opinions since I last posted. This is not a big deal. I am recently 25.
Motivations (abnormal): OH MY GOD SOCIETY ANXIETY NEW SITUATION AAHHHHHHH.
Motivations (selfish): Less Wrong is full of experts whose internet names I keep coincidentally running into...
A pleasant surprise: Absolutely everybody I've been speaking with lately is entirely surprised that I had social anxiety all along.
My therapy: honesty. Weaknesses of honesty: obvious. Strengths of honesty: also obvious. For radical honesty, non-obvious to non-rationalists.
(I have not seen a therapist in about 10 years. My therapy is, to put it shortly, in the style of Bertrand Russell. Sort of.)
Well, I'm back. Let's see how much better I have become. I promise that I did not give myself time to read my old posts. Anybody who is sufficiently interested in me will always be able to find out what I was like anyway. My greatest protection is that I am not that interesting. That's risky. I have preferred the simple life for a reason. That reason has been bad.
Anxiety is irrational. It leads you to overestimate the degree to which people are interested in you. Anxiety is rational. It is an evolutionary vestige, reflecting a typical spectrum disorder, and is therefore likely to have been subject to selective effects, like overly aggressive dogs, and so forth. Real life paradoxes. Tricky things. They can drive you absolutely bonkers.
I give Less Wrong my total honesty. I will decline only with generalized rationales, only to protect the rights of others. These include ordinary rights to privacy. Again, anxiety. None of my friends have known me as long as I have been away from Less Wrong. Still, if I want to say "ask me anything," my reasons for declining, should I decline, will be "ordinary." I will therefore decline in polite, normal ways, and simplify answers in polite, normal ways. This took recent training: even after holding a steady, normal job for quite some time, in which I was "very good." It is blue collar. Nothing exciting. I will be leaving shortly.
I've come a long, long way my last post in a lot of ways. I remember one stupid mistake which kept me from posting on Less Wrong for a while: I came back - for a second - not too long ago, having read a few things about population genetics, and then I made an argument that was obviously stupid. (From memory and shame: I forgot about matrilineal descent.)
I have read the sequences. I remember them, from long ago, unusually well lately. They seem to be popping back up a lot. You can quote them to me. Do not assume I know anything. I've learned to be a little more patient.
I've learned a lot about the private sector which I "knew but didn't <em>know</em>." Like LaTex, HTML, and category theory (biological) and category theory (mathematical). I am still working full time in a blue collar job. I will find the time to learn. The question is, where to start...
Bad answers: school. (not yet. I know. I have a university subscription. It's practically free. I have access.)
Bad answers: textbooks. (I've read them. I prefer the real articles. I already know the only category theory (mathematics) textbook I need. To me, that's obvious. It's even more obvious to me than propositions like, "now's a good time to sleep.")
Good answers: "what?"
This Q and A will be conducted in the style of Robert Sapolsky. My plagiarisms are honest. You may request sources to any answer.
I will sleep. That's healthy. Much more healthy than I ever really understood. I'll check in tomorrow.
If nothing else, I do like jokes. You are allowed to treat this post with the full force of intellectual cruelty.
I was not always nice. I have done it to strangers. I do regret it now. Still, it can be funny. So, fire away!
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That concludes my first Less Wrong experiment. Like any bad experiment, it confirms what I know, because I know what a self-fulfilling prophecy is.
From now on, I will post on the presumption that I am not anonymous.
Continue.
(Note: as an analytical social hyperanxious who envied "normal functioning," I do not believe that I can hide. I can only expect people to be exactly as nice as they always were. There are no demands, in the world of hyperanxious honesty. Only requests.)
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Now, to begin another experiment: I am not anonymous, and I am also not here for therapy. That is what friends are for. I have my therapy. You know, family and stuff. Same honesty, new constraint, which, as promised, only random people on the internet may introduce.
Less Wrong just filtered what it can and cannot hear. It has done this before. Not its fault. Mine. I accepted "random internet responsibilities." I must now accept "people who are not me" constraints. Those, are rules. I am good at formalisms....
Continue as before. Ask me anything.
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The second experimental result: I have failed to elicit interest. Per the original posts, I accept the responsibilities of a writer, though I am no writer. Per ordinary standards of intellectual honesty, I will emphasize: this is an experiment. Less Wrong determines the parameters as it goes. The experiment will continue on the following lines:
My failures: clear communication.
My "root cause theory": Generalized Anxiety Disorder
My constraints: the lack of expertise to make that call.
My second constraint: sufficient knowledge and skill to avoid learning precisely what I need to.
My "primary" motivation: from memory, Less Wrong is full of people with similar intellectual interests.
My prediction: "self help" threads will be similar to mine, in some ways, albeit much better written.
My control: I have not ever read a self help thread.
Limitation: Why should Less Wrong believe that?
Ask me anything. Or not. Some experiments fail, others succeed.
Maybe. I was genuinely asking, not censuring you for failing to follow the tenets of our faith.
Are you intending to respond to my question, or just muse about my motives in asking it?
Except that doesn't necessarily reflect anything real besides the details of the culture in question. See also: witchcraft.
In this case, while I am not confused by your meaning, you are rendering this discussion too ambiguous for me to make my point. If I insisted on referring to homosexuality as a "fetish", (or "perversion" or something else that boiled down to "sex thingy that's not mainstream",) and replied to arguments about how homosexuality is qualitatively different with discussions of "fetishes", asking me to taboo "fetish" and talk about the facts of the matter would be reasonable, don't you think? (This is not a hypothetical example.)
I submit that giving someone a tattoo while they're drunk is not the same as raping them.
OK: I prefer to punish this in order to discourage it in general, even if, in this specific case, it has negative net utility.
And yes, having something happen to you that does not cause physical damage or mental distress (because you don't know it happened) can reasonably be categorized as not containing "harm", although obviously there are different possible definitions of the word "harm".
Well, I guess it's a good thing I noted it then, isn't it?
Seriously, though, that failure is not appropriate, because there is a difference in the resulting harm caused by safe and unsafe sex; to whit, possible pregnancy and the risk of STD transfer. Both of these have measurable effects that the victim remembers, and indeed are likely to reveal that the rape occurred (depending on the individual in question.) You are deliberately trying to conflate different things, here. Stop it. Even if it turns out what we care about is identical in both cases, what you are doing amounts to refusing to discuss the question at all.
Just muse.
Except [supporting lowering the age of consent under some circumstances] doesn't necessarily reflect anything [real] besides [culture], [like witchcraft!] Word salad. What you could have said is, "I was mistaken, as I could not have predicted that," or, "I was correct, because lowering the age of consent is a really popular right now."
I think people should have a say in what happens to them, be it politically or otherwise. Would it "harm" a child to keep him locked in a giant playground/amusement park, with everything he could ever want provided, but kept from any education? Would it "harm" the human race as a whole to be kept in a state of perpetual orgasm, kept alive, but forgetting everything else? Is a slave being harmed, even if his master does not beat him and feeds him well?
I'm with the old-school utilitarians on this. Utility is not hedonism. Immediate pleasure and pain are not the sum of all harm. I think that women and men should have some say in what happens to their bodies. That's why I'm not fond of circumcision, especially fgm. (Another cultural prediction?) That's why I have no problem with almost any type of relationship between consenting adults. Bondage? Sure. Open relationships? I've had them and they're my favorite. Polyamory? Why not? Homosexual? Obviously. Incest? With some exceptions concerning guardian/minor relationships, but otherwise, why not? I would even support tax breaks/rights for polyamorous relationships similar to those now granted for monogamous couples, the scale of which to be determined after research into outcomes for children and other - to my knowledge - unknowns.
But this is obviously "culture", which you would have predicted. That's why it wouldn't have helped you to use "meaningful consent", right? If I were to give some other LWer a checklist of predictions about my feelings about sexual relationships, and tell him to use "culture", he - statistically a `he' - might use polls. If I tell him to use "meaningful consent", how much more accurate would he have been?
If your answer is "no more accurate", I'll propose an experiment. If your answer is, "yes, significantly more accurate," then we know that other people understand something that you do not, and that the problem is not the phrase but your own comprehension of it.
No, it's not. I'm trying to establish that something is an offense, and I'm not interested in whether or not something else aggravates it. I might have cut off her foot, too. Who cares. That's not "conflation." What's clear is that you don't think that violating self-determination is "harm". That's the difference between us. Keep it to the internet, though, because if you touch a sleeping girl, you might find "Schelling points in act space" won't help you.