waveman

Some very good ideas here. 

I was going to object to the provide only vegan/vegetarian snacks on the basis that some people care about their health, but carnivores can easily go 12 hours without food so it is not a big issue, other than perhaps that one should not pander to irrationality. Specifically that a strict vegan diet without supplements will kill you (B12 and other things). https://x.com/i/grok/share/MXii9Lw6HXf4i9ETVkRBug1cU

> Every case I get requires me to deploy a microscope and retrace the cops’ steps to see if they fucked up somehow (spoiler: they haven’t).



At the risk of stating the obvious, even according to the link provided, not all defendants are guilty. 

And there is indeed tremendous pressure to plead guilty given the draconian penalties that some with a guilty verdict after a not guilty plea, versus a plea deal. 

The book "Evil Angels" about the Lindy Chamberlain case in Australia illustrates some of the things that can go wrong and lead to innocent peop... (read more)

> waist went down

OK good - all we need now is your height

The standard method to measure waist is with lungs neutral  (neither full nor empty) and measure at the point of the belly button. E,g, not necessarily where your belt goes. I assmume you did this.

> I'm in my forties

OK that makes it more impressive.

>Cacao (chocolate) not the precursor to cocaine

That is also a stimulant but not so much as coca.

> weight scale 

Waist circumference is a pretty good proxy or you can work out Body Shape Index which is far better than the very broken BMI. 

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Body_shape_index

> potatoes tasty

They can me made tasty indeed. Though the fact you have to do things to make them tasty suggests they are not inherently that tasty. Monotony can also be a factor in how motivating-to-eat a diet is.

 

Two pieces of information that would really help me to unterpret this post

1. How old are you? Weight loss seems to get exponentially harder with age (up to about 70 years old)

2. Were you able to assess how much fat was lost as opposed to how much weight was lost? No-one cares about losing weight, the goal - which is what should be measured - is fat loss. 

Comments:

Potato only diet sounds a lot like Shangri-La diet - nothing tasty. I did lose weight on the SL diet but it takes away much of the pleasure of consuming food. 

A lot of the other things you mentioned seeme to be stimulants (e.g. LSD, Cocoa). These do help weight loss but at a cost. 

In line with the maxim "read the textbook first" I offer metaethics:

https://plato.stanford.edu/entries/metaethics/

https://iep.utm.edu/metaethi/

Nietzsche claimed that "there are no moral facts at all". It does seem that any moral system requires some axiom that cannot be derived from facts about the world, or logic. 

Famously Kant's Categorical Imperative is one such axiom. 

Your AB should ideally be:

I would add

d) A person who does not have RSD (rejection sensitive dysphoria). This is a pretty common condition. A lot of people are just very averse to any feedback and such people do not make good accoutability partners. Such people may to be looking for cheerleaders not accountability partners. 

Related ideas around immunity to change in this book https://www.amazon.com.au/Immunity-Change-Overcome-Potential-Organization/dp/1422117367
"Immunity to Change: How to Overcome It and Unlock the Potential in Yourself and Your Organization" by Robert Kegan

> Our youngest (15m) has recently started sleeping through the night

Initially I was going to point out that letting them cry themselves out sets the scene for neediness and insecurity down the track. But at 15 months it is a different story and what you are doing is fine. You must be at your wits' ends. Ours slept through at 6 weeks which was bad enough.

>Function of REM sleep

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Rapid_eye_movement_sleep#Deprivation_effects

I had a Zeo sleep monitor and I noticed that I had more REM sleep when doing hard intellectual work or deliberate practice, or after emotionally intense experiences. I had more deep sleep when exercising hard e.g. sprints or resistance training. This suggests to me that these forms of sleep are respectively associated with learning and body repair.

I also notice that I can learn a lot faster when I have naps and/or ample sleep. And that I recover from hard exe... (read more)

For any of those who are not big fans of CBT, ACT is very different 

My gripe with CBT is that it tends to resolve to telling yourself that your feelings are irrational, make no sense etc. This is OK if your problem is primarily due to thoughts that are just merely cognitively wrong but I find this is rarely true. The problem is usually at the emotional level and in that situation CBT basically only papers over the problem.

One extreme case of this was a relative of mine who was given CBT for an anxiety condition, which turned out to be due to a cortiso... (read more)

You are right that other therapies do recognize multiple parts in various ways. 

From studying and using all of the above my conclusion is that IFS offers the most tractable approach to this issue of competing 'parts'. And in many ways the most powerful. 

When you read about modern therapies, they all borrow from one another in a way that did not occur say 50 years ago where there were very entrenched schools of thought.

General comment:

There was a post in this thread claiming therapies are useless. This seems ironic as IMHO there are now available ... (read more)

After reading the whole thing I don't think he disposed of the hyperpalatability hypothesis. That was the weakest part of the series. 

One other thing that was missing related to sugars and seed oils. I have not been able to find any 'native' poulation with access to large quantities of both. You do have some with access to large amounts of fruit or honey, as mentioned. And also some (Kalahari desert dwellers eat large amounts of Omega 6 rich mongongo nuts "why farm when the world has mongongo nuts") with access to large quantities of Omega 6 oils, one... (read more)

fruits, which are obviously 'natural'

Given the massive changes in fruits from selective breeding, I disagree. I would classify most fruits in the hyperpalatable category. 

How many of the bananas in the article below are you going to eat?

https://www.sciencealert.com/fruits-vegetables-before-domestication-photos-genetically-modified-food-natural

And then there is the issue of availability in nature. Most fruits are only available seasonally in nature but we have fixed that. This temporary availability in quantity may be IMHO what drives binge eatin... (read more)

Notice that jefftk is responding to the child from the child's perspective.

Later on yes - perhaps - but not in real time. The question in my mind is why is the child so anxious about people taking their food and having enough food? Is this a thing that happens often? Is there a lack of security about getting enough food? Do adults behave in capricious ways that violate the child's rights?

Explaining that there is actually enough food may actually miss the point. The point is that in the moment the child did not, for whatever reason, trust that they wo... (read more)

 > You have to realize that as a parent

I have been a parent for several decades.

> You can't do a psychological deep dive everytime.

True - but would be looking out for other signs that the child is anxious about getting enough food to see if this is a one-off or not. I am still interested in the question of why the child is so anxious about getting enough food that they created this scene. Something here does not add up.

> she probably calmed you down a thousand other times without leaving any psychological scars

Actually denying the existence o... (read more)

There is a book "Daily Rituals" by Mason Currey which looks at the practices of various high achievers. Few were able to achieve much more than 4 hours a day of sustained high calibre intellectual work*. This suggests to me that going much past this is difficult as you would think others who could work harder would do so and win. 

A typical day would look like this

1. Hard work in the morning for 4-5 hours with coffee or breakfast. 
2. Lunch then take care of business. 
3. Relax in the evening.

A nap at lunchtime can help you to eke out another h... (read more)

I remember a slightly similar incident from my own childhood. I was very upset and expressed my concerns, and it was explained to me why my concerns were wrong, and that the winning move was not to be upset any more. As far as the parents were concerned, problem solved. In fact I recall hearing my mother telling someone, many years later, about this as an example of her excellent parenting.

As far as I was  concerned the problem was not solved and the message I received was that my concerns about [issue] were to be kept to myself in future and I was on... (read more)

I ran into a similar problem. I was doing estimates of time and costs for projects which then went into the business case. As with OP my estimates were calibrated and usually fairly accurate. 

Others' estimates were massively biased to low $ and time and often wildly wrong - in one case too low by a factor of 12.5. This is not rare of course - Microsoft Word for Windows V1.0 took over 5 years but never had an "end date" more than 1 year out.

The problem is that the business units wanted lowball estimates so they could get their projects started. It was ... (read more)