3. Blind spots, cognitive errors

Thinking that "caring" is thinking for another person

This is when I constantly remind Sveta to grab a robe or do some household chores. The problem is that Sveta already remembers to do them, and my reminders only annoy her, not help her.

It's like imperative programming, where you describe how to do each step (vs. declarative programming, where you describe what to do).
It's also like spoon-feeding a baby with its own hand.
It's also like hyper-parenting when you take your kid to the hospital even when he's a teenager, or when... (read more)

2. Principles

Act as if you are building a solid long-term relationship, even if it is likely you will never see that person again.

• Turn in work on time
• Always give notice as soon as you realize you are going to miss a deadline (show up for a meeting on time, turn in work on time).

Separate the person's behavior from the meaning of your conversation.

As a friend of mine said when her five year old son used tears to force her to go out with him in the evening after a long hard day, she said: "If I didn't want to, I wouldn't go. I would have explained to hi... (read more)

Hammertime is an old, but still really helpful "challenge", if I may so. I have learned some brand new fundamentally useful habits from this 30-days period, and this way – a huge warm Thank You, alkjash!

I will answer this final exam in several messages, separating them but three themes you provided.

1. Techniques

Trust the exocortex / exobrain (reminders, todo-list) with everything you need to "remember" on a long run.

Kinda:

• Getting the dish out of the oven on time.
• Show up on time for your dentist appointment.
• Get some physical exercise done.

Record the bugs
Minimum action: Strike a note in Todoist, as is, albeit drafted (note: I always have Todoist on hand).

Yoda Timer
Minimal action: Start a timer on your phone.

PTD/TAP
Minimal action: Whenever you think of adding a repetitive thing to your life, give yourself 30-60 seconds and answer the question, "What is the simplest thing I can do regularly in this area?"
For example:
- To get accustomed to reading, is it ok for me to read at least one paragraph a day?
- To pump up my English, is it normal to watch one 10-20 minute TEDx talk in the original every... (read more)

I love "capsKeys" script for AutoHotkey for Windows, which kinda imitates vim using. It replaces Caps Lock key/button functionality, so Caps Lock starts acting the same way like we use Ctrl, Shift and Alt buttons – let's say, we get fourth auxiliary key.

Just have a look github link from the beginning of this text, it speaks for itself. Personally, I using it for about 10 months and cannot imagine PC experience without this tool.

I really can't get the point from the "3. Solve or Reduce Aversions", specifically: 
> Meanwhile, un-endorsed aversions should be targeted with exposure therapy or CoZE.

As I can see, here we should get rid of bad aversions. But the rest part of the text sounds like we should... reinforce them?..
> To apply exposure therapy, build a path of incremental steps towards the aversion

I used to have my Sapience Spell when I broken up after eight years of hard and harmful relationships and rented a new apartments. The day when I moving inside this apartment and after deal with all the stuff, I was so tired and wasn't ready to cook the food, so I went to the nearest takeaway.

On the route I noticed building under construction and by some reason it caught my attention. I found something common between me and that building: I also felt myself "under construction" at that time. This thoughts made me smiling, and the rest of the night I spent ... (read more)