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jezm10

I'm usually frustrated by these kinds of debates — individuals never get a chance to go into much depth because their time is so short, and I want to hear counters to the better points raised before they are dropped for lack of time.

But I thought a 2:2 was a large improvement over a 3:3 (which is what most debates in the past I'd seen). I didn't mind it. There was some depth.

I think for a general (non-less-wrong) audience, a 1:1 debate can have a trap that it's perceived more about the individuals and their personalities than the issue itself. A 2:2 feels ... (read more)

jezm60

I'm always about a month behind on reading these posts (via RSS), so I don't typically comment, but your posts have been a highlight, lsusr. Thank you for sharing.

3lsusr
Thank you for the nice comment! It always makes me happy to find out people read the things I post. Your reference to RSS motivated me to add an RSS feed to my website. It is available here here.
jezm40

I love seeing crossovers between subjects like this, thanks Adamzerner.

People often complain about how rare it is to feel listened to, and I think this is a big part of it. You need to keep your stack small so that you’re shaping and pacing your own lines from their reactions. Listening is a key part of conversations even when you’re the one.... speaking.

I had a mild revelation last year in Improv class where they taught us “error handling” in the form of ”watch whether your partner’s face lights up” whenever you say a line.

It made me realise I was only li... (read more)

2Adam Zerner
Glad you liked it! Yeah that makes a lot of sense about those nonverbal cues giving a stronger signal than the verbal ones, while also slowing down conversation less. And that's interesting to hear about how improv improves ones listening skills. I never made that connection before, I always thought of it as more "learning how to be funny"