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Help! What do I say at my wedding?
Jonathan Task30

We've already set things up to have a ceremony and all that content, but this would have appealed to me immensely had I known about it earlier, and the fact that its an established tradition would have definitely helped me convince my bride to do this!

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2maia
Cool :-) In case it's useful, let me share with you the vows we used: "In the presence of these our family and friends, I take you to be my beloved, promising to be a loving and faithful partner. I vow to cherish your spirit and individuality, to face life's challenges with patience and humor, to respect our differences, and to nurture our growth. I will share the world with you and delight in seeing it through your eyes. Together, we will build greater things than either of us could alone." The first two sentences were taken from various Quaker wedding certificates I found online, and the second two we wrote ourselves. We wanted them to be true to ourselves and our relationship, but also feel timeless, not tied to specific things about ourselves or our hobbies like some vows you hear these days.
Help! What do I say at my wedding?
Jonathan Task20

I loved this first one

  • "loving someone is creating a context for their growth, fostering a deep well of reciprocal good will"

where is it from?

 

(thanks! all of them are awesome)

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1Jarred Filmer
From memory the first part was something Richard Bartlett tweeted, the second was my addendum šŸ˜„. Glad you liked them šŸ˜Š
Help! What do I say at my wedding?
Answer by Jonathan Task10

I really like the Finnish gov't notary's speech when they wed people (thanks @Optuses from the ACX discord):

"The purpose of marriage is to create a family for the common good of its members and for the preservation of society. Marriage is intended to be permanent, so that the members of the family may together create a happy home."

"In the presence of these witnesses, I ask you [name]: Do you take this [name] to be your spouse, to love him or her for better or for worse?"

(Answer: I do.)

"In the presence of these witnesses, I ask you [name]: Do you take this ... (read more)

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