I'd say there's a good chance that you're equating correlation with causation, to an extent; it might not be your systematic self-improvement plan that's effective insomuch as you, yourself, have grown and matured over the past few years and are now more confident and self-assured with different needs and traits than those you had years ago. That, to me, seems like pretty typical individual maturation.
I'd question the inherent assumption that polyamory is inherently more ethical. While monogamy does limit some relationships from forming, it can also pro
... (read more)I'd certainly agree with your first point; I was more thinking in terms of the initial "high" most people feel within the initial period of a relationship. As time progresses and infatuation ceases, relationships typically become a great deal more "work" than they do when you're enamored and full of almost unconditional love. After getting used to that shift, though, I can certainly see variation over time. But I do firmly believe that the initial few months, for most relationships, are the easiest. Hence the need for an evaluation aft