This is something I've been puzzled by for a long time, for myself. The "inner critic" is generally described as a literal voice that people hear, saying things like "wow, I'm such an idiot", "nobody likes me", etc. My problem here is that I generally don't think in words (except...
I recently learned there was a study that found that BPD anger behavior is largely mediated by this chain: [shame → anger → anger rumination → BPD behaviors]. The takeaway for me is: notice if there is shame under my anger and try to attend to that if I can,...
I've been chewing on the book The Language of Emotions by Karla McLaren a lot, lately. It gives a surprising and (to me) unique perspective on emotions and how they behave when they're able to act in their healthy un-stuck ways ("Flowing" as the book calls it). Shame in particular...