Fair point, and I appreciate your input -- I'm often ignorant of the differences between how I would take remarks vs. how other people would.

But with respect to my use of "your failures", that was just to follow the form of Alicorn's question, not because I like making others feel like failures. Here's the relevant part:

Let me clarify: you think I'm immature, almost constantly in error, you won't explain my failures in enough detail for me to make use of the information even when I ask... [bold added -- SB]