why of course! I've been lurking for a few years now so I remember when you began posting on self help etc. now that think more about it though, I might've had pjeby in mind as well, you two sort of 'merged' when I wrote that above comment, heh

but really, proficient is just a word choice, I guess it is flattery, and I did mean to signal you, but that's how I usually write.

apologies if that overburdened you in anyway..

ETA: oh and I'd meant to write 'more proficient', not just 'proficient'.