Disclaimer: in large part, I am trying to persuade myself.

Even now, I fail to apply the Litany of Tarski. "If I'm really a man, then I desire to bel--" Wait, doesn't compute.

I feel similarly, and I begin to suspect that my brain is treating it like a moral, rather than empirical, proposition. Consider: "If I am evil, then I wish to believe I am evil"? No. It should read: "If I am evil, then I wish to fix that problem."

How then can Tarski apply to a morally-charged proposition? It's probably better not to go around thinking things like "I am an evil person", since such beliefs tend to be self-fulfilling. But I think there's some room to think things like "In certain respects, I have been behaving as though I were evil." By treating the situation in terms of individual symptoms, rather than underlying traits, it becomes much easier to make the world into what you choose. Don't say, "am I really a good person?" but rather "I would like to stop kicking puppies".

Obviously, gender isn't actually a moral proposition. But if you alieve that it is, it might be useful to treat it like one.