On reflection I agree with you that my language was ill-considered. I'm not going to edit the original post, because there's no point pretending I didn't make the mistake.
Incidentally, since creating this post, my karma has gone from 45 to 4294967341. I would guess that this post was downvoted to a negative number, and it broke some sort of counter. I don't know of any better way than a comment to report the bug, so there you have it.
http://code.google.com/p/lesswrong/issues/detail?id=145
Edit: I'm wrong. Your karma is 2^32 + 47! That's a whole separate bug, and a very wacky unexpected one too.
I've talked religion with people of many different ages and creeds, and none of them have ever been content to practice their religion in private. All belong to a religious community; many contribute money and time above and beyond the minimum requirement. And in all the religious discussions I've ever had, I've never heard anyone decline to participate because their religion is "intensely private and individual."
So Eliezer's quote from William James by way of Adam Frank left me scratching my head, as well. I think of religion first and foremost as a social behavior rather than an individual one. It's not just that religious people use the claim of private revelation as a defense against reason; it's that they can attend sermons, sing in a choir, recite prayers in unison--and then make that claim of "solitary" experience with a straight face!
Eliezer's post listed some of the ways that theodicy warps rational thought on the individual level, as sort of warning label on the "poisoned chalice." Religious people are liable to respond that religion may not make people rational, but it makes them altruistic "good Samaritans." (Never mind that in the parable, the Samaritan is more altruistic than a high priest!) They claim that any harm religion does to the individual is outweighed by its benefits to the group.
Rationalists should make the case that religion is harmful to society as a whole, as well as individuals:
I left out at least one obvious argument for the benefit of commenters.