Hey Benedict,
My name is Wes and I am a new member here as well. I read your intro and all I have to say is just don't let anything bother you. Adopt your own form of spirituality, and let it be non-passive resistance, Zen, or following Jesus' Third Way. There needs to be nothing theistic about it, simply rational and philosophical. When you come into an argument with your old man or your family, just don't be perturbed. If they love you, they should let you make decisions for yourself. A teacher of mine once told me, "Making up your own mind is the only freedom we really have."
If you realize what all religions really strive for, then I think a compromise can be reached. You can have a spiritual side, you can admire and stand in awe of the infinite, the eternal, and the beauty of nature and what they call 'God'. Yet you do not need to call it under the name of the Christian God or give it any one singular definition. Recognize that there is a Higher Power, and your father will agree and will understand. When he prays, you meditate. It will simply be 'God', as you understand him. This power greater than yourself can simply be a group of humanist and rationalist people who gather on-line to share each other's wisdom. This collective here at LW is more powerful than you or me, and any one of us on our own.
Or it can be something deistic, pantheistic, or non-theistic - the choice is yours, and shall always be.
Just know that your way is ultimately the right one for you, and one day they might realize the inadequacies of anthropomorphic or cultural-specific monotheism. Practice turning the other cheek (Jesus was a philosopher- such a good one that weaker men deified him). They will see your enlightenment, whether you call it spiritual or not, through not your words, but your deeds. In the end, I'm not qualified to say this and mean no offense, but I'm guessing LW is not the spot for overcoming religion. Nor for overcoming family issues. Check out r/atheism or PM me at http://www.reddit.com/r/futurology/ my friend.
W
If they really love you, they'll let you make decisions for yourself.
This isn't actually true. If your parents don't let you do what you want you shouldn't modus tollens to thinking they don't love you. That would be terrible.
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A list of some posts that are pretty awesome
I recommend the major sequences to everybody, but I realize how daunting they look at first. So for purposes of immediate gratification, the following posts are particularly interesting/illuminating/provocative and don't require any previous reading:
More suggestions are welcome! Or just check out the top-rated posts from the history of Less Wrong. Most posts at +50 or more are well worth your time.
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