I'll accept this definition, but would like a word to describe my marriage in that case.
I'm quite confident that if we ever wanted to open the relationship up to romantic/sexual relationships with third parties, we would have that conversation and negotiate the terms of it, so I'm reluctant to describe us as disallowing other partners. But I currently describe us as monogamous, because, well, we are.
Describing us as polyamorous when neither of us is interested in romantic/sexual relationships with third parties seems as ridiculous as describing a gay man as bisexual because he's not forbidden to have sex with women.
So how ought I refer to relationships like ours, on your view?
I'd describe that as monogamous. You're saying that you think you'd be able to negotiate a new rule if circumstances arose, but the current rule is monogamy.
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