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Adele_L comments on Wait vs Interrupt Culture - Less Wrong

71 Post author: Benquo 27 November 2013 03:38PM

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Comment author: Adele_L 23 November 2013 09:53:32PM 5 points [-]

Those things are easier, but the main thing I have a problem with is when I have my own thought that I want to introduce to the conversation.

I'll try adjusting my attitude also, and see if that helps.

Comment author: TheOtherDave 23 November 2013 10:31:15PM 7 points [-]

My usual advice is to go ahead and introduce the thought, even if there doesn't seem to be a natural "hook" for it to hang on in the conversation. That might very well come off as abrupt, out of the blue, or even rude... but if your norm is to stay quiet for lack of such a hook, it's unlikely that reasonable people will be too offended by it. (Unless, of course, they are the sort who are offended when anyone else behaves like their conversational peer, but that's a bigger issue.)

Comment author: Benquo 23 November 2013 11:03:26PM 3 points [-]

I meant that practicing by doing more of the easy thing might be a good way to work up to doing any of the hard thing.

There's also asking a friend explicitly if they mind if you interrupt them, if you have people you're comfortable enough with to do that. That could be another way to practice first in a low-stakes interaction.