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No doubt this post will drop into downvoted oblivion. But I would like to explore the following, for personal reasons:
Have you ever used the services of a legal prostitute, like the ones who operate in bordellos in some Nevada counties? Did you have your sexual debut with a legal prostitute because you couldn’t make it happen in your organic social situation while growing up, for example, with girls you knew in high school or college? And did that experience somehow make it easier to develop the skills for having sexual relationships with women through dating? Or does it still leave you relatively incompetent in that area because prostitutes don’t really solve the sex problem you thought you had?
I don’t know of any research into this. But then professional sex researchers in general seem strangely incurious about the problems of sexually inexperienced and excluded adult men, judging from the absence of this topic in the recently published Human Sexuality 101 textbooks I’ve seen.
BTW, I find it interesting that over a decade ago, Eliezer described himself in a news story as a “volunteer virgin,” though he has since become sexually active. That implies he had opportunities for sexual relationships that he had simply declined until something happened to change his mind about pursuing them. Perhaps he realized that sexual experience would elevate his “armor class” in the male status hierarchy. It would also improve his social relationships with women in other areas; women can pick up on the “tells,” as Texas Hold’em players call them, of sexually inexperienced men, and they tend not to respect them.
So I know a neighbor of a neighbor who was once high on grass in Amsterdam where the ladies sit in shop windows and gave it a try. He said despite that said substance is a known aphrodisiac and despite she was hot, seriously kind and sweet, and eager to please, it is not good at all because due to the lack of love or lack of real attraction on her part - despite faking it - it was very much like doing a warm lifelike rubber doll. However this neighbor of a neighbor have never really had very high libido so it should be compared to him being "moderat... (read more)