I agree with you on the complexity of value. However, perhaps we are imagining the ideal way of aggregating all those complex values differently. I absolutely agree that the simple models I keep proposing for individual values are spherical cows, and ignore a lot of nuance. I just don't see things working radically differently when the nuance is added in, and the values aggregated.

That sounds like a really complex discussion though, and I don't think either of us is likely to convince the other without a novel's worth of text. However, perhaps I can convince you that you already are suppressing some impulses, and that this isn't always disastrous. (Though it certainly can be, if you choose the wrong ones.)

there aren't large benefits to be gained by discarding some emotions and values.

Isn't that what akrasia is?

If I find that part of me values one marshmallow now at the expense of 2 later, and I don't endorse this upon reflection, wouldn't it make sense to try and decrease such impulses? Removing them may be unnecessarily extreme, but perhaps that's what some nootropics do.

Similarly, if I were to find that I gained a sadistic pleasure from something, I wouldn't endorse that outside of well defined S&M. If I had an alcoholism problem, I'd similarly dislike my desire for alcohol. I suspect that strongly associating cigarettes with disgust is helpful in counteracting the impulse to smoke.

If I understand correctly, some Buddhist try to eliminate suffering by eliminating their desires. I find this existentially terrifying. However, I think that boosting and suppressing these sorts of impulses is precisely what psychologists call conditioning. A world where none refines or updates their natural impulses is just as unsettling as the Buddhist suppression of all values.

So, even if you don't agree that there are cases where we should suppress certain pro-social emotions, do you agree with my characterization of antisocial emotions and grey area impulses like akrasia?

(I'm using values, impulses, emotions, etc fairly interchangeably here. If what I'm saying isn't clear, let me know and I can try to dig into the distinctions.)