Foreword
This book has been reviewed pretty thoroughly already. Rather than restate each chapter, I'll be sharing insights: some book-specific, some general.
I am quite proud of my time-to-completion for this book - just over a week, working around a very strenuous courseload. I went from having to focus really hard to pick up new concepts to reading notation nearly as fluently as the English surrounding it. The chapters started making sense - it felt less random, and more like a coherent story wherein the protagonist slowly adds owers to their arsenal.
Naïve Set Theory
Functions
Functions are just static sets of ordered pairs . They are not dynamic indexing functions, they do not perform efficient lookup, please do not waste an hour of your life trying to figure out how you could do such a thing within the simple machinery afforded by set theory up to that point.
This is one of those things that Nate talked about - how skipping over just one word a few chapters prior can cause you to waste hours. During my confusion, I knew this was probably the case, but I still couldn't manage to immediately overcome my intuitions of what a function should be. This is one reason I'm open to working through the MIRI Research Guide with others.
Families
Families are, ironically enough, just a special kind of function; don't let your intuition fool you - they aren't "groups of functions". A family belonging to maps each element of the index set to an element . For example, a family from to could be (thanks to Dacyn for helping me clarify my writing).
Zorn's Lemma
I spent three hours staring at this proof. I understood what ZL meant. I grasped the relevant concepts. I read other versions of the proof. I still spent three long hours on this damn proof, and then I went to my classes. I don't know why I ended up figuring it out, but I suspect it was a combination of two factors: my brain worked through some things during the day, and I really wanted it. On the bus home, I mentally snapped and decided I was going to understand the proof. And I did.
I'm pleased to share my detailed proof outline of Zorn's Lemma, the product of many hours of ambient exasperation, rewritten in my own notation. Looking back, the proof in the book was pretty bad; it was neither succinct nor intuitive, but instead imposed a marais of mental variable tracking on the reader. I think mine is at least a little better, if not fully fleshed-out at all junctures.
Proof Calibration
As someone without a formal degree in mathematics, it was important for me to monitor how I approached the exercises in the book. Whenever the author began a proof, I tried to generate a mental proof sketch before reading further. Sometimes, I thought the proof would be easy and short, but it would turn out that my approach wasn’t rigorous enough. This was valuable feedback for calibration, and I intend to continue this practice. I'm still worried that down the line and in the absence of teachers, I may believe that I've learnt the research guide with the necessary rigor, go to a MIRIx workshop, and realize I hadn't been holding myself to a sufficiently high standard. Suggestions for ameliorating this would be welcome.
Forwards
Anticipation
One factor which helped me succeed was that I ensured my morning reading was what I most looked forward to each day. I was excited to go to sleep, wake up early, prepare a delicious breakfast, and curl up near the fireplace with book and paper handy. Trivial inconveniences can be fatal - do whatever you must to ensure you properly respect and anticipate your study time.
Defense with the Dark Arts
The most useful productivity-related advice I ever read was by Nate Soares (Dark Arts warning), and it relates to imbuing your instrumental goals with terminal values. Ever since having read that advice, every tedious assignment, every daily routine, every keystroke - they're all backed up by an intense desire to do something about the precarious situation in which humanity finds itself.
Internal Light
If you don't know where to start, I think the internal fire has to be lit first - don't try to force yourself to do this (or anything else) because you should. Stop the guilt-based motivation, proudly stake out what you want, and transform your life into a dazzling assortment of activities and tasks imbued with your terminal values, your brightest visions for yourself and the future.
The first secret is that eigenvectors are not really the point; the fundamental concept is eigenspaces, and the point of eigenvectors is to furnish bases for eigenspaces. Eigenspaces are unique, but you have to make choices to pick out a basis of eigenvectors.
An eigenspace for a linear operator T:V→V is a subspace W⊆V which is T-invariant (meaning that TW⊆W) and on which T acts as multiplication by some scalar λ (the "eigenvalue"). You would love to have such a thing if it existed, because multiplication by a scalar is super simple to understand (for example, it's super easy to compute powers of T acting on W since you just take powers of λ). But there's no reason a priori to expect that such things exist.
The miracle is that if V is finite-dimensional and we're working over an algebraically closed field such as C, then T always has a nontrivial eigenspace, and in fact most of the time V is the direct sum of the eigenspaces of T. (In general V is the direct sum of the generalized eigenspaces of T; this is a slightly weaker version of the existence of Jordan normal form.)
In other words, most of the time you can split V up into a bunch of directions such that T acts by scaling each of those directions (this intuition is complicated by the fact that we're working over a field like C but as a first pass this isn't bad). I want to underline that this is a miracle; there was no reason a priori that linear operators on finite-dimensional vector spaces should behave this simply, and in the infinite-dimensional case things are much more complicated.
I don't know if that addressed any of your confusions; as I said above, more specific questions are better.