In a New York shop, I once got pressure-sold something expensive I didn't really want; when I said it cost too much, I was asked what I might be prepared to pay, and we ended up haggling. Since then, I've had a rule:
- If it's a non trivial price, never decide to buy while you're in the shop
and I have been very glad of it on many occasions. I can go for a short walk to decide, and if I don't want it, I simply don't return to the shop. This means I'm deciding in calm surroundings, based on what I want rather than on embarrassment.
Are there other maxims I could adopt that would serve me equally well?
(Personal note: I'm in the Bay Area for a week after minicamp, Sunday July 29th to Sunday August 5th. Let's hang out, go to things together, help make my visit cooler! Mail me: paul at ciphergoth.org. Thanks!)
Most people seem to giving a lot of rules of thumb, or even imperatives, instead of what I'd call maxims.
My rule of thumb: write down your maxims, and review them often.
Maxims that cheer you, maxims that motivate you, maxims that kick you out of bad habits, maxims that encourage good habits.
The most important are the maxims that touch you and move you. The best in that regard are quotes from a character in a movie or a book - that quote becomes a touchstone for a full context of meaning.
Two of my new favorites:
Sucker Punch (Sweet Pea)
HPMOR (Harry)