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Mistrust? Why would people mistrust you if you don't drink?
It's a refusal to participate in ritualized social bonding, and that signals you aren't willing to relax around other people and don't consider them to be part of your social in-group. If you're not drinking, that may also mean you get to keep your guard up while everyone else is saying and doing silly or even forbidden things.
I can't drink because of my medications, and I always get teased about it. "Come on, just one shot is fine..."
Or it signals that you are comfortable asserting your own values in contradiction to a group. That's a very positive signal to me, but probably generally negative.
Or maybe they think that your non-drinking is not a value of yours, but a value of another group that you are choosing over theirs.
Interesting. I knew people think that way in Japan (I was thinking about asking sixesandsevens if they were Japanese), but there, people don't mind if you actually do silly/forbidden things when you're drunk (or so I've heard).
I can't speak for everybody, but I think this is the reason why I tend to dislike non-drinkers.
Huh, you got a downvote for that? That wasn't me!
I probably should drink less myself, and I tend to think of non-drinkers as "sensible people who didn't like the taste of alcohol when they were teenagers and didn't give in to social pressure" (like my mother, my sister and my husband).