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Viliam_Bur comments on How to have high-value conversations - Less Wrong Discussion

15 Post author: Vika 13 November 2013 03:39AM

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Comment author: Viliam_Bur 13 November 2013 09:44:44AM 6 points [-]

This sounds like crap a teacher would ask their class or a psychiatrist would ask their patient to elicit responses. Robotic, unfun, and vague.

I suspect the bad feelings come from the experience that the teacher usually does not care about things that I care about. So I am asked to give a response of a very specific type, or I will be punished (socially).

Contrast this with an environment where speaking about unusual things may be socially rewarded, and admitting your weakness may lead to a rational advice how to fix it.

Sometimes people learn that the best way to avoid being hurt is to avoid being open. That's a good advice for a harmful environment. It's not an optimal behavior in helpful environment.