when the object of your affection is uninterested, that's often a turnoff, and so one then looks elsewhere.
I'm probably not a typical case (which is probably why I am confused), but this has not been my experience.
I don't know if I've ever been "in love", given that "in love" is so sloppily and subjectively defined. I'm not clear on what's a crush and what's "in love." But suffice it to say that I have felt feelings for someone that someone who is less introspective (or philosophically careful) would likely label as being in love.
When I am in such a state, the feelings of the other towards me are fairly irrelevant to my feelings towards her. I want the best for the object of my love and I sort of "melt" inside when I see her smile, but I don't want her to love me back, necessarily. I want her to be happy. It's not as if I'm not fishing for a relationship, and if that one isn't biting, I'll go find someone else to fall in love with.
However, I have worked hard to develop myself emotionally, to forgive always, and to love unconditionally.
I don't know if I've ever been "in love", given that "in love" is so sloppily and subjectively defined. I'm not clear on what's a crush and what's "in love."
I guess there are multiple components of "love", and different people may use different subsets. For example:
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