I think people learn to regulate themselves when they realize how self-defeating this is.
What is "this"?
I was thinking about removing the comment because it wasn't clear to me what you were referring to. I think having strong feelings for other people while ignoring how they feel about you is generally a waste of resources.
If it's worth saying, but not worth its own post (even in Discussion), then it goes here.
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