Spending more time together means you (a) can notice more interesting things about the other person, and (b) have more common experience. Both of those can contribute to love.
There are things that you only notice after long interaction, for example how reliable the other person is, or how they behave in exceptional situations. (On the other hand, there is also a chance you will notice negative traits.) Having things in common increases the feeling of closeness.
Yes. I understand that. But it is just as true for my friends, of whom I am very selective, and with whom I grow very close. I have only occasionally developed quasi-romantic feelings for (feelings that, given what I'm reading here, seem close enough to qualify as "in love with") a friend. Why is that?
(Admittedly, both the people I've "fallen for" have been 1) of my preferred sex and 2) particularly awesome.)
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