Unfortunately I don't think that a majority of academically trained psychologists have enough control over their own emotions to not get angry for bad reasons and go into self-justification.

In my experience that is accurate.

To be fair, as long as people stick to the psychologist-client script, and have more-or-less typical problems, they probably will get acceptable treatment.

However, pointing out that what the mental health person is doing isn't working for me, for reasons that person doesn't immediately recognize as valid isn't sticking to the script. (and probably just being more intelligent than that person and having genuinely non-standard opinions isn't sticking to the script either).

I don't know whether your state reaches depression

That varies. To some extent, yes.

Do you do exercise?

I do regular exercise.

After exercise the second highest rated intervention on curetogether is to spend time with a pet. In the absence of human interaction, a dog can fill some of that niche. It can give you the feeling that there somebody who accepts you like you are.

That's interesting. I think that might work for me, but I have I doubts about my ability to arrange for that to happen.

LW meetups are good

Don't have one in my area (in responding to MathiasZaman's comment, I edited the my original post to reflect that I'm not located in the US).

I would go if there was a meetup in my area.

Joining a sports team is also good.

Merely doing things along other people is typically not enough for me to form connections. And it doesn't sounds interesting or fun enough to me to be worth doing for its own sake.