Focusing by Eugene T. Gendlin is a good framework of handling emotions.
I try to just keep reminding myself that it's simply an optimization problem.
Dealing with your own emotions as an optimization issue is seldom the best approach.
Sorry, I meant that the situation is an optimization problem. Like I'm trying to get something out of the people.
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