Is there some further info about the concept of "transactional attitudes in relationships" ? I tried to google it, little avail. I would like to know more about it, because IMHO some amount of transactionality is inherent (even in friendships, people will not give forever without getting anything in return), and it sort of makes sense from the different libido of the two genders that the major exchange is women giving sex, men giving something else, but probably too much short-termist attitude in that (expecting instant repayment instead of an ongoing mutual happiness goal with both getting what they want) is probably indeed unhealthy, but it would be good to have something more than opinions on it. At least a detailed analysis. My hunch is that only martyrs can be 100% non-transactional so it is probably something about flexibility and time-frame.

Interestingly, googling transactional vs. relational brings seemingly unrelated results, it is about how businesses can treat customers.