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ChristianKl comments on Open Thread, Apr. 13 - Apr. 19, 2015 - Less Wrong Discussion

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Comment author: ChristianKl 14 April 2015 11:51:53AM 0 points [-]

Even if that would be true it's still something that makes some woman feel uneasy. Not making woman uneasy itself doesn't guarantee sexual success but it's still very useful. On the other hand I don't see how inexperience makes woman feel uneasy.

Comment author: advancedatheist 15 April 2015 04:31:42AM 3 points [-]

On the other hand I don't see how inexperience makes woman feel uneasy.

Of course a man's inexperience can make women uneasy, and for reasons they might find hard to articulate if they don't encounter enough inexperienced middle aged men to form a good profile about them. Men who got their sexual experience at an appropriate age develop what I call the Adult Man's Skill Set (AMSS); yet ironically they don't see what AMSS does for them because they lack perspective on it and just take it for granted, like learning how to drive as a teenager. I, by contrast, can see all kinds of nonobvious things about AMSS from its absence in my life.