Would this work at least as an early crude hypothesis of how neurotypicals function?

Neurotypicals like social mingling primarily because they play a constant game of social status points, both in the eyes of others (that is real status) and just feeling like getting status (this is more like self-esteem). This should not be understood as a harsh machiavellian cruel game. Usually not. Often it is very warm and friendly. For example, we on the spectrum often finding things like greeting each other superfluous. Needless custom. You notice when people arrive or when not they will talk to you when they want something. But for neurotypicals exchanging mutual warm greetings makes sense, it is a mutual reassurance or reinforcement of each others status. Sometimes people will ignore someone's greeting, even not shake an extended hand, that will be seen as a rude move to reduce the status of the other, as it is embarrassing. This is rudely dominant move they only pull if they are angry at each other. However, it will more often happen that there is some community, group, like a Toastmasters meeting or the local Linux user club or something and someone arrives and hands out a warmish greeting to the whole group but gets only nods in return, or a very short hi, this usually means "you are an outsider, newcomer, not fully accepted in this community yet, so while we don't reduce your status we are cautious about affirming it either, we stay noncommittant until you prove yourself". But then again someone will often be very warm to the newcomer, because acting as a mentor of noobs raises one status inside the group. It a friendly, helpful but clearly dominant move over the newcomer (let me show you the ropes here is the subconscious message), it also reaffirms one as a central member of the group as people who are themselves newbies would not do it, and as new and new people get into the group the people who mentored them cal slowly drift into leadership.

But greetings are just a simple example of the many ways neurotypicals enjoy playing status games. Again it is not a harsh thing, often very warm. But their constant social mingling, constant "purring" with each other is nothing but a set of microtransactions in status. All this small talk thing, plus the body language etc.

To enjoy gaining a score is a general human trait, even we on the spectrum do enjoy getting on the high score table in arcade games or levelling up in an RPG videgame or becoming a thane in Skyrim, we just don't notice how neurotypicals keep doing this all the time. All the social niceties boil down on handing out a micropayment of positive status, any tiny notion of kindness acts as so, the basic small talk of two random people meeting at a garden party will be feeling out each others status as a first step, getting liked by micropaying status ("Wow, that sounds like you have an interesting job!") in exchange for liking or raising your own status by a bit of boasting etc. And that is the nicer part, the uglier part is when people try to reduce each others scores, that is where bad blood comes from.

1. Am I on a remotely right track here?
2. Does the statement "nerds / neckbeards often have poor social skills" unpack into "people on the spectrum not even noticing that neurotypicals don't just mindlessly follow social customs, but they are involved in a status micropayment exchange" ?
3. Any article or book that helps me go on in this line of thought?