Open Thread, Jun. 29 - Jul. 5, 2015

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1) You may be interested in this article - The Economics of Sex.

2) Have you tried online dating? It seems much more efficient.

I call this, agile social skills development ;)

I like it :)

because my previous approach has yet to work at an age where it has for others!

Some thoughts:

I doubt that it's because you're not unique enough. There are a lot of non-unique people with girlfriends.
I doubt that it's because you're not good looking enough. There are a lot of not-so-great-looking people with girlfriends.
It seems to me that there is some underlying reason why you haven't had success yet. I'd think that strategies involving your uniqueness and/or looks would be mostly fruitless without addressing the underlying reason. My guess is that the underlying reason involves some combo of awkwardness and lack of confidence. If my guess is true, I don't see it as bad news, because I see it as something that is very addressable.
If it makes you feel any better, I'm 22 and have never had a girlfriend.

Adding my data point: I had a first girlfriend at 24, but soon after 30 finding a new girlfriend was no problem. Since I don't have a control group, it is hard to tell what exactly was responsible for the change: age alone, more social life, stuff I learned online, confidence gained from the first success, dancing and massage lessons, or maybe something else I am not aware of. But it was a dramatic change.

It would be easier to tell what I did not do: I didn't exercise, I didn't get more rich, I haven't moved to a different city. I'm mentioning these, becau... (read more)

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