So how did we get to this absurd situation where gay men have become the cool guys who receive all this consideration and patronage from elite institutions, now including the U.S. Supreme Court; while the adult male virgins with normal desires have become the freaks, weirdos and expendables, apparently become women say so?
As near as I can tell from what I have read about Charles Darwin, if you could travel back in time and meet him before he married his cousin Emma Wedgwood, about a month before he turned 30, you would have met an adult male virgin. Yet Darwin managed to get Emma pregnant ten times, despite her late start too, and seven of their children survived to adulthood. Darwin and his wife probably have hundreds of currently living descendants now, so he clearly had the goods when it came to masculinity.
Rationalists consider Darwin just about the greatest intellectual celebrity on their side, ever, even though by current standards many people today would have called him a loser in his 20's because of his adult virginity.
Why do many adult males derive their sense of (low) worth from their (lack of) sexual success?
Because this is not automatic. There are situations where celibate men are high-status, e.g. Catholic priests in religious countries. And there are much more situations where people simply don't discuss their sexual history. For example, when I read a book by an author I like, or when I play a computer game, I do not care about the author's sexual history. Even when I meet someone and debate with them, I don't ask this type of questions (which may be unusual behav...
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