gay men have become the cool guys who receive all this consideration and patronage from elite institutions, now including the U.S. Supreme Court; while the adult male virgins with normal desires have become the freaks, weirdos and expendables, apparently become women say so?

This raises an interesting question, actually. How many of those "gay men" are only being gay because that's their solely alternative to being a loser virgin? After all, that's a common scenario in male subpopulations with no access to women - consider convicts, or folks living in sexually oppressive societies.

Updated to add: I'm not suggesting that our own society is sexually oppressive, at least wrt. gays. I'm only saying that the scenario for male virgin losers is close enough that they should respond in similar ways. If anything, we should expect gay behavior to be even more common (in the affected subpopulation), compared to societies that do repress it - and where it exists nonetheless.