it would probably destroy our family
That's about your family's attitudes, rather than about anything intrinsic to the act.
I would be surprised and possibly grossed out if this happened in my own family, but that would be the moral equivalent of a vistigial limb,* something to get past.
*I was going to say appendix, but the appendix does actually have a function).
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